Cheer Up! (Simple Thoughts...)

Breaking Up and Moving On

Breaking up is not easy. In the first place, who would like to end a relationship with someone you love? But, this thing is necessary especially when you feel that neither of you is growing. If the break up is mutual, you can find this easy, but if you were the one who have left behind, that’s a different thing. 

The good thing about breaking up is that you are opening yourself to opportunities of knowing yourself more than that person knows you. At first, you will find it hard to move on because you still cannot accept the fact that everything will be phased out. Sometimes you tended to do crazy things like the following (which are not the right things to do if you want to move on):

1. You want to see your ex even in the picture so you tend to search his Facebook account. That’s immaturity.  Seeing your ex will most likely brings out all the emotions that you want to kill. Rule #1. Avoid seeing your ex.

2. You do not want to talk to anybody about the break up and still pretend everything is going on right. Talking to your close friends is not bad at all. It is the best way so that you can release all the feelings you hold inside your heart. After all they are your friends. They will not judge you but they will help you realize that you are not losing but you are gaining. Rule #2. Talk to your close friends.  

3. You keep everything that will remind of him because you think it is the least you can do to be with him. This is crazy. It will just show you how weak you are. Keeping everything is just letting you remind of the past relationship. Letting go means putting away everything that will make you remember him and fall again to your deep hurts. Rule #3. Let go of memento.

Focus. Let go of him completely. It happens for a reason. The best thing you can do is to remember all the lessons taught in the past relationship. Just think that God is just preparing you for the right person. 

Proverbs 4:25-27 

Let your eyes look directly forward, and your gaze be straight before you. Ponder the path of your feet; then all your ways will be sure. Do not swerve to the right or to the left; turn your foot away from evil.